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Ready to give a best man speech that's remembered for years to come? Simply provide some essential details—like your relationship with the groom, funny stories, and key moments between the newlyweds—into the fields below. Then click "Generate Speech" to receive your free, AI-generated best man speech.

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Welcome to the Best Man Speech Generator, the latest addition to the aiwizard spellbook. Have you been entrusted with the honorable task of delivering a best man speech but find yourself tongue-tied? Look no further! Our AI Best Man Speech Generator is designed to create a customized, heartfelt speech that will leave the newlyweds and guests impressed. Simply provide some details to guide the AI, hit "Generate Speech," and receive a compelling best man speech in an instant.

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(*Of course, if you’re looking for more than ‘advice’, check out all the different ways the Speechy team can help you write & deliver a great speech. Or check out our new AI-powered team member, SpeechyAI .)

Is SpeechyAI For You?

Are you a professional comedian? Do you regularly write and present speeches? Are you well-versed in the modern wedding speech do’s and don’ts?

If not, SpeechyAI might be for you.

Next… Do you hate the thought of rehashing Goggled gags and lame wedding gags? Are you strapped for time and money but know you need help?  Are you getting flashbacks of all the terrible best man speeches you’ve had to witness in the past?

If so, SpeechyAI is definitely your new best friend.

Let’s face it, not everyone possesses the natural flair for public speaking or the ability to effortlessly weave humour and sentiment into a coherent narrative.

Enter SpeechyAI, the revolutionary AI Best Man Speech Generator from Speechy.

Designed to alleviate the pressure of crafting an unforgettable speech, SpeechyAI leverages cutting-edge technology to create personalise, eloquent, and entertaining speeches. And how does it do that? Well, the human team behind Speechy has to take a bit of credit…

An Independent Review

when  Tie the Knot  asked if we’d be happy for couples to test out SpeechyAI we had no hesitation.

And, honestly? We don’t think we could have written a better review ourselves!

Mark, one of the grooms taking part in the publications Planning Diaries series, said everything we could have hoped him to and more!

– ‘It was like having a conversation with a friend’

– ‘It was like reliving our love story, one hilarious memory at a time’

– ‘The tool crafted a masterpiece; funny, heartfelt and tailored to our story’

– ‘It was like a comedian providing the punchlines and an editor polishing the paragraphs’

Score? 10/10 – plus extra brownie points for pre-wedding peace of mind

Speechy Expertise

SpeechyAI has not been designed by a bunch of AI geeks. Instead, it’s been lovingly developed by the speechwriters at Speechy; an elite team of TV scriptwriters and professional comedians.

The team have

• Written for a range of BBC comedy and entertainment shows (TV and radio)
• Appeared as the wedding speech expert on BBC Sounds Best Men podcast with Jason Manford and Steve Edge
• Written the new wedding speech bible for couples ‘The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches’ published by Little, Brown
• Featured everywhere from The New York Times to The Times, The Daily Mail to Brides, and even The Drew Barrymore Show

The team has spent nine months building and testing SpeechyAI and programmed it with all our best speechwriting tips and techniques. No wonder it’s so bloody good.

How The Hell Does It Work?

You might just want to head straight to the chase and check out our SpeechyAI product page where there’s even more detail, but in summary, it works by asking you a series of questions online.

There’s about 40-50 of them but you don’t need to answer them all. Some of them are essential information but a lot of them are just prompts to help you think about the possible content SpeechyAI can possibly play with. Basically, the more it has to consider, the better your speech will be.

You can bash out your answers in about 45 minutes, but you don’t need to do this in one hit. You can start and come back to it another day.

Incorporating personal details, memorable moments and little insights, allows SpeechyAI to generate a speech that feels authentic, intimate and original.

When you feel you’ve added enough, you can then submit the content for SpeechyAI to work its magic.

AI utilises advanced natural language processing algorithms to generate a speech that’s based on your unique responses. And, here’s the thing… it can hunt out opportunities for humour and make you sound like a comedy genius. No joke.

‘I was honestly stunned by the quality of some of the lines that SpeechyAI generated in our period of testing. Gags that would have probably taken my hours to come up with, it generated in three minutes’, s ays Speechy founder, Heidi Ellert-McDermott.

While the overall speech (luckily for the Speechy team) wasn’t quite up to the standard of the human writer’s work (which comes with a price tag of £499 and a turnaround time of around a fortnight), there was no doubt that it was an excellent and ambitious junior team member.

‘We believe there’s still a strong market for the human ghostwriter but we’re proud SpeechyAI offers expert help and original wit at such an affordable price. It really is remarkable. I’m hopeful it’s going to kill off all those blooming awful best man ‘jokes’ that make so many wedding speeches so cringy’, says Heidi.  

Okay, So It Can Be Funny, But Can It Write A Flowing Speech?

Yep, it can.  SpeechyAI knows how to create a strong structure and compelling narrative. It knows a best man speech needs to be humorous but it also knows it needs to be a heartfelt tribute to a true friend too.

SpeechyAI also recognises the importance of paying a tribute to the groom’s partner and ticking off all the essential speech etiquette, including ideal length (between six and nine minutes delivery ideally; never longer than ten!).

Will The Speech Be Perfect?

No. First drafts rarely are.

SpeechyAI (like even the best human speechwriter) might misinterpret an anecdote slightly or it may produce a line or two that you just don’t like or that doesn’t sound genuinely ‘you’.

That’s why we’ve also created an Edit function that splits the speech into sections, where you can either edit the speech yourself or get AI to do it for you.

Is It A Cop-Out?

Well, in the same way that using a calculator is cheating.

Back in the 80s teachers and parents were worried calculators would stop kids using their brains and there’d be a generation of folk who couldn’t count to five, and look at us now; we can count all the way to seventeen.

Like most forms of tech, SpeechyAI helps you harness thoughts and supercharge them. SpeechyAI serves as a testament to the fusion of AI and human creativity, marking a new era in the art of speechwriting.

And hopefully, fewer best men resorting to shockingly bad jokes under pressure!

The Speechwriting Experts

The Speechy team  are TV-trained scriptwriters/comedians by trade & we’ve helped 1,000s of speakers around the world deliver their dream speech.

Our advice has been quoted everywhere from  The New York Times  to  Grazia  and from Forbes to The Observer . Our founder has also featured on the  BBC Sounds’ Best Men podcast with Jason Manford and written ‘ The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches’ , published by Little, Brown.

How can we help you?

Speech edit service, £ 245, bespoke speech writing service, £ 495, birthday speech template, birthday speech for a loved one template, delivery coaching, £ 150, or check out our range of speech templates from just £ 29 :, we’re rated ‘excellent' on trustpilot for a reason....

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Struggling to find the right words for your best friend's special day? Allow Heartstring to kickoff your Best Man speech for you. Our advanced AI assists in generating personalized speeches, transforming your memories and emotions into the perfect Best Man speech. Start your journey with Heartstring and leave a lasting mark on your friend's most cherished day.

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Simply answer some personalized and contextual questions about your relationship with the couple, and our AI will generate a unique and heartfelt Best Man speech for you.

Yes, our powerful preference-based AI draft editing allows you to adjust the speech as you wish, ensuring it aligns perfectly with your style and sentiments.

Absolutely. Whether you want your speech to be funny, sentimental, or a blend of both, our AI is designed to accommodate your needs – just set your tone and writing style accordingly.

Our AI is designed to learn from your preferences. If the first draft isn't quite right, you can highlight parts to keep or reject and generate a new draft tailored to your feedback.

No, Heartstring operates on a transparent pricing model. There are no hidden fees or subscriptions. You pay a flat rate upfront to access a set number of Heartstring generation credits for your selected Heartstring type. If you use all included Heartstring credits, more can be purchased for an additional cost.

At Heartstring, we care deeply about the quality of the words we help generate and your overall satisfaction with our service. While we don't offer a traditional 100% money-back guarantee due to the nature of our service, we have a fair refund policy in place. If you're unsatisfied with the quality of your Heartstring, you may be eligible for a partial refund of up to 50% of the original purchase price. Full refunds are considered on a case-by-case basis if there were bugs or generation errors on our platform. Please note that refund requests can only be made within 30 days of purchase and by those with active Heartstring accounts. For full details and to submit a request, please visit our Refunds page.

Yes, every script is unique. Our AI tailors each script based on the information provided by you, creating a personalized and distinctive script for each occasion.

Not at all! Our AI mimics human-like writing, capturing emotions and the essence of one's story, resulting in a natural, engaging, and heartfelt script.

On the contrary, Heartstring makes it more personal. By focusing on your unique inputs and learning from your preferences, Heartstring crafts a script that's tailored to the individuals and occasion in question. It's about amplifying your voice, not replacing it.

While it's true that AI can't feel emotions, our AI has been trained on a vast amount of data and can understand and mimic human-like writing, including capturing emotional nuances and sentiment. We've found that many users are impressed by the depth and resonance of the scripts created by Heartstring.

At Heartstring, we prioritize your privacy. All personal details are encrypted and securely stored. We don't share your data with third parties.

The Heartstring.ai platform uses the details you provide to create a highly personalized speech. The more specific and detailed you are in your answers, the more personal the speech will be.

Heartstring.ai uses the latest AI technology that's been trained on a vast array of text and speech examples. This enables it to generate high-quality, human-like text that captures a wide range of human emotions and speech patterns.

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Experience the power of AI combined with in-depth speech writing research to create a wedding speech that captures your emotions authentically. Whether you're the best man, maid of honor, or father of the bride, crafting a toast that's funny, witty, or heartfelt has never been easier

Craft the perfect wedding toast

Being asked to give a wedding speech is an honor. But figuring out what to say can be stressful. With our free AI wedding speech generator, you can create funny wedding toasts or a heartfelt best friend wedding speech tailored to your unique relationship with the couple - without the hassle. If you are struggling to articulate your feelings or seeking inspiration for wedding speech ideas, our free AI Wedding Speech Generator is your solution. Wow the newlyweds and guests with a memorable toast you can be proud of, without the writer’s block and hours of preparation.

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Unlimited Revisions

You have unlimited opportunities to revise, adjust tone, and include specific anecdotes, ensuring a perfect match with your preferences.

Our AI is designed to not only personalize toasts but also to infuse them with emotional depth and authenticity.

Ease of Use

Our user-friendly tool streamlines speech creation, guiding users with targeted questions to create personalized wedding toasts.

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Not in the slightest! Our platform is designed with simplicity in mind, requiring zero technical know-how. You'll find it a breeze to navigate through our user-friendly process to compose your speech.

Our AI is finely tuned for speech crafting, offering unmatched personalization and emotional depth that generic AI platforms can't replicate. Celebrateally’s user-friendly interface, coupled with customization options and a focus on privacy, makes it unique.

The more details you provide, the more personalized your wedding speech or toast becomes. Celebrateally focuses on delivering high-quality, emotionally resonant speeches that capture the essence of your unique relationship.

With Celebrateally, creating a personalized wedding speech is instant. After you've provided the necessary information, our AI gets to work immediately, delivering a tailor-made speech in no time.

Absolutely! Your privacy is our priority. All input and generated vows are handled securely and kept confidential, ensuring a private and intimate experience.

AI Best Man Speech: Create a Personal, Funny Wedding Speech in Any Style (Free Prompts + Examples)

Ever since ChatGPT burst onto the scene, there are tons of  AI tools that can write copy for just about every occasion – including your best mate’s big moment: The Best Man Speech! 

To avoid any frustration in creating your speech, we’ll show you how to:

• Choose the right AI assistant
• Create prompts that get the best results
• Personalise your speech 

Time to put the robots to pen!

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Hold on, can chatgpt write a best man speech.

Sure! It might lack in personality and funny stories, though. So if you want to use AI, we’ve got some special tips and prompts to help you write a truly epic speech in no time.

The 7 Steps to Create an AI Best Man Speech

If you’re short on words, lacking inspiration, or just total rubbish at writing a speech that’s not snore-inducing, here are the exact steps you need to follow to let AI do the heavy lifting:

Step 1: Pick your AI platform

There’s a bonanza of AI tools ready to lend a hand! Some, like HyperWrite and Verble, are specifically designed for speech writing , while others, like Inflection, Gemini, Perplexity, and ChatGPT, are more multi-purpose and get the job done well too.

Step 2: Ask AI to help you get started

If you’re not sure how to ask AI to write a best man’s speech, you can do exactly that. 

In the text box where you enter prompts, ask, 

“How do I ask AI to write a best man speech?”

As a response, you’ll be asked to provide some details about the groom (and the bride), their relationship, any anecdotes or memorable moments you want to include, and if there’s a specific tone or style you want to use. 

You’ll also often get a template to follow to help you create better speech prompts, but this isn’t essential, as you can work in any order.

Step 3: Begin entering your prompts

With a basic idea of what you need to do, you can start giving AI your prompts.

Examples of what you can prompt include:

“Best man’s speech inspired by Lord of the Rings, in the style of Gollem,  include an anecdote about how a wet cat led the couple to meet. Make it funny and heartwarming.”

“Formal best man speech including an all-ages appropriate jokes and advice for newlyweds.”

“Funny, heartwarming, personal best man speech in the style of Billy Connolly.”

You can also request speeches that suit different types of grooms, whether this ties in with their personalities or their interests. This helps the AI to tailor its results to suit you. 

For example, you can ask for a speech for:

• Hopeless Romantic

Really, the options are endless, so you can be as creative as you like. Or at least as creative as suits the wedding.

Step 4: Get specific with your instructions

There are some elements that just about every best man’s speech needs, and these include:

• An icebreaker.
• A brief overview of your role in the groom’s life (e.g., friend, brother, best gay uncle, etc.).
• A funny or heartwarming anecdote.
• Advice and well wishes for the newlyweds.
• Compliments to the bride, groomsmen and bridesmaids.
• A final toast.

To get AI to add these elements, you can simply enter them into the prompt section. You don’t have to do them element by element either; the robots will work out where everything fits together. 

You’ll now have a pretty good speech that’s ticking all the boxes. But when you read it aloud, you notice something is missing. Maybe it’s not funny enough? 

Perhaps it doesn’t tie in with the wedding’s theme, or maybe it’s too risqué—or not risqué enough?

Tell AI what you want using prompts like:

• Make it funnier
• Add a quote about love
• Include wisdom from an old married couple
• Include reference to a beach/winter/seasonal theme
• Make the advice risqué/sexier/cheekier

Step 5: Cut the cheese

At the end of the day, AI isn’t human, and it does have a propensity for being cheesy . And not just a mild gouda but full-on vieux-Boulogne on a sunny day.

So, go over your speech and look for those sprinklings of parmesan. Such as: 

They say that love is like a fine wine, it only gets better with age. And judging by the way these two look at each other, I’d say they’ve found themselves a couple of rare, vintage bottles.

Let’s sprinkle in a few more jokes to keep the laughter flowing like the tide. Today, as I look at him standing here, ready to embark on this incredible journey with [Bride’s Name], I couldn’t be prouder to call him my friend.

If any of the text made you cringe or groan, remove it! 

Step 6: Check your timing

Calculating the length of a speech based on the text is not easy, so you need to get practicing. A good way to do this is to read your AI masterpiece out loud at the same pace you would on the wedding day and set the timer.

If it’s too short, tell AI to “ make it longer” . If it’s too long, tell AI to “make it shorter” .

You should get specific here with what you want to add or what you want to cut. For example:

“Include two more jokes and words of wisdom about married life”

“Remove a joke and any long descriptions”

Yikes. You did this, and now you no longer praise the bridesmaids. In fact, any mention of them has been obliterated. You’ll need to prompt this again to get them back in the speech. 

In fact, now’s a great time to revisit your checklist and ensure you’ve covered everything you wanted upfront.

Step 7: Final touches

You’ve got your speech ready to go, you’ve ticked all the boxes on your list, and you’re convinced there won’t be a dry eye in the house. But it’s not quite long enough.

If this is the case, do yourself a favor and separate your text out and see where you can add to it. While most AI doesn’t have a word count limit, longer texts can hamper the system’s ability to generate a coherent or non-repetitive response. 

If you want a longer anecdote or to add a funny story about some of the mischief you got up to , consider creating a new prompt and then adding it to your speech. Or, if you think your final toast needs work, start a separate prompt and refine it this way.

You’ll have to do some tying together, but it beats writing a whole speech from scratch!

From Tongue Tied To Toastmaster

If you want to nail your role as best man , AI is your best friend. The trick is to refine your prompts and ensure that you cover all your bases.

Once you’re done, you should have a speech you’re proud of, the bride and groom will love, and the guests won’t fall asleep during. 

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Relieve stress and put your stories and emotions into a heartfelt wedding speech with help from AI.

"Those who are terrified of wrestling with words for a speech and are not tech-savvy, he said, may find a service like ToastWiz — which is tailored to write specifically for weddings, unlike ChatGPT — more helpful."

"Another friend suggested she try ToastWiz, a paid service for crafting speeches that uses AI."

"ToastWiz, an AI tool that prompts people to input personal details and memories and uses GPT-4 to come up with a clean, clear, but still personal speech."

"Another AI tool for those who don’t want to look like tools in front of 150 people is ToastWiz, which, for the low price of $29.99, can make sure the happy couple is indebted to you forever."

AI-Powered, Uniquely You

ToastWiz blends cutting-edge AI with your personal touch. Our smart system transforms your thoughts into a speech that's unmistakably you. Experience technology that captures your voice and touches hearts.

From Stress to Success in Minutes

Forget writer's block. ToastWiz's streamlined process turns your ideas into polished speeches in minutes. Whether planning ahead or last-minute, get a professional-quality speech without the stress.

Confidence in Every Word

More than just words, ToastWiz crafts experiences. Our AI ensures a perfectly structured speech with smooth transitions and impactful moments. Customize to your liking and step up to the mic with assurance.

Honestly, I was so surprised by this tool. I was nervous about being best man so decided to give ToastWiz a try. It didn't disappoint. I was pleasantly surprised by the outputs. It was able to be funny, too, which was a shock. Thanks, guys!

As maid of honor, I was freaking out about my speech. Their form was super easy to fill out with stories about the couple. Then I got four great speeches to pick from. I chose my favorite, added my own touch, and ta-da! Everyone loved it. ToastWiz turned this nervous wreck (me!) into a confident speaker. Best money I ever spent on the wedding!

Never thought I'd use AI to help with my daughter's wedding toast. But ToastWiz came through for me. Simple to use. Their questions brought up great memories. I picked my favorite from their options and tweaked it a bit. Not a wordsmith, but the speech felt like me. My daughter hugged me after, teary-eyed. Couldn't ask for more.

I wasn't sure if using ToastWiz was cheating or not. But after using it, I'm so happy I did. It helped me put things into words that I couldn't have done on my own. My son was thrilled and everyone told me how much they loved the speech.

Q: Why should I use ToastWiz?

Struggling with writer's block or facing a tight deadline? ToastWiz is your ultimate speech-writing solution. Our AI-powered platform transforms your unique ideas and memories into a polished, heartfelt toast in minutes, eliminating anxiety and saving you precious time. With ToastWiz, you'll deliver a personalized speech that sounds authentically you and leaves a lasting impression on the newlyweds and guests.

Q: How do I get a speech?

Crafting your perfect wedding speech is effortless with ToastWiz! Simply complete our user-friendly questionnaire, sharing your thoughts and memories. Within minutes, our AI-powered system will deliver four custom-tailored drafts to your inbox, each capturing your unique voice and story. Choose your favorite and refine it to create a speech that truly resonates with you.

Q: Who writes the speech?

You're the heart, we're the AI-powered pen. ToastWiz, with help from GPT-4, transforms your memories and style into a polished, personalized speech. It's like having a brilliant writing partner that never sleeps, crafting your perfect toast with the efficiency of cutting-edge technology.

Q: Why shouldn't I just use ChatGPT?

Unlike ChatGPT, ToastWiz is exclusively designed for crafting unforgettable wedding speeches. Our AI has written thousands of successful toasts, ensuring the perfect balance of humor, sentiment, and tradition. With personalized guidance from brainstorming to delivery, ToastWiz offers a tailored experience that general AI simply can't match, helping you create a heartfelt speech that will resonate with the couple and guests alike.

Q: Are the speeches good?

Our AI-powered speeches are exceptionally crafted, blending emotion, humor, and personalization to create unforgettable wedding toasts. Don't just take our word for it – countless satisfied customers have shared glowing reviews about how ToastWiz helped them deliver truly memorable speeches at weddings worldwide.

Q: How long are the speeches?

Each ToastWiz speech is typically 350 - 600 words long. This equates to about 3 - 5 min (depending on how fast you talk). The more stories you give ToastWiz, the longer your speech will be.

Q: What is the price?

The price is $39.90 for four speech drafts.

Q: Why four speeches?

ToastWiz offers four unique speeches to maximize your options and ensure the perfect fit for your speech.

Q: Are there returns or refunds?

If you're not happy, we're not happy. We offer a 100% money-back guarantee. For more info, please see our refund policy .

Q: What types of speeches does ToastWiz help write?

ToastWiz helps craft heartfelt wedding toasts for best men, maids of honor, groomsmen, bridesmaids, cherished friends, parents, and siblings of the bride and groom, ensuring every special moment is celebrated with eloquence and warmth.

ToastWiz speeches are perfect for rehearsal dinners and receptions.

Q: What is the turnaround time?

The wedding speeches are emailed to you within minutes after you checkout.

Q: Will I be able to give the speech right away?

We recommend reviewing and editing the speech before giving it. While the speeches have proper grammar and are structured well, we find that most ToastWiz users like to make edits to the speech before giving them.

Q: Is the speech unique? Do you use a template?

Every ToastWiz speech is unique based on your inputs. We don't use a template.

Q: How do I get started?

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Craft the perfect wedding speech with ai 🥂.

Harness the power of ChatGPT 4 to help you find the perfect words for an unforgettable wedding speech.

How it works

Creating your custom, unforgettable wedding speech with the assistance of artificial intelligence is as easy as 1-2-3! Follow these simple steps and get ready to make a memorable impact on the special day.

1. Complete Our Form

Fill out our quick form. Answer some questions and provide us with the context and tone you desire for your speech.

2. AI Writes Your Speech

Sit back and relax as AI works its magic! Your personalized and impactful wedding speech will be generated automatically.

3. Deliver Your Speech

Practice and deliver your speech with confidence! You'll be sure to make a lasting impression on the special day.

Your Own Personal AI-Powered Speech Assistant

Discover the game-changing benefits of crafting your wedding speech with the assistance of advanced AI. Enjoy ease, personalization, and confidence as you deliver the perfect words on the special day.

A perfect speech in minutes

Time is of the essence. Toastie fast-tracks your speech preparation, saving you precious time and effort. Complete our simple form, and within moments, receive a speech ready for delivery. Enjoy more moments of celebration, and less time stressing over words.

Your memories, your speech

Experience the power of personalized storytelling with Toastie. By collecting information about your life experiences and memories, our AI crafts a speech that mirrors your journey and sentiments. Share a piece of your heart and history with your audience, ensuring your words leave a meaningful and lasting impression.

Stress-free speech writing

Say goodbye to the anxiety and pressure of crafting the perfect words. Let our advanced AI take the stress out of the process by generating a beautifully written and personalized wedding speech for you. Focus on the joy of the occasion and leave the worry behind. Relish in the peace of mind that comes with knowing your speech will be a resounding success.

Don't take our word for it

Our AI-powered speeches have been the highlight of countless weddings. But don't just take our word for it, hear from those who have toasted with us.

Being asked to give a speech at my best friend's wedding was such an honor, but the thought of writing one was incredibly daunting. Thanks to ToastieAI, I was able to create a heartfelt and memorable speech that had everyone in tears. It truly captured the essence of their love story. Thank you for making my speechwriting process so much easier and helping me deliver a speech that will be remembered for years to come!

I never thought I'd say this, but writing a wedding toast was a breeze thanks to this website! ToastieAI took into account the details I provided and spun out a beautiful speech that felt personal and authentic. The couple loved it, and I received so many compliments. Highly recommend to anyone in need of a little speechwriting help!

As the father of the bride, I felt an immense pressure to deliver a speech that would capture both the depth of my emotions and the joy of this momentous day. I struggled with where to start and how to express everything I felt. This AI wedding speech generator was an absolute godsend. It helped me weave together my cherished memories, hopes, and well-wishes into a touching narrative that resonated with everyone. My daughter came up to me afterward, teary-eyed, saying it was the best gift she received that day.

Have questions?

Why should i choose toastieai.

Opt for ToastieAI when you aspire to deliver an unforgettable speech that leaves the newlyweds and guests mesmerized. It's the perfect choice for making the bride or groom feel cherished, especially if you're nervous or unsure about your speech, facing a time crunch, or having difficulty converting your thoughts and memories into words.

How can I craft my speech with ToastieAI?

Simply choose your speech type and fill out our tailored form. This simple step-by-step process collects essential information for your speech. There's no need to worry about grammar or writing quality. ToastieAI examines and refines your input, creating a personalized, enhanced speech reflecting your unique sentiments and experiences. Receive your crafted speech on-screen within seconds.

How does ToastieAI work?

ToastieAI, empowered by OpenAI's GPT-4 model, first scrutinizes your writing style, tone, and provided details and stories. It enhances your narrative and wording while maintaining the original essence, intertwining your stories to produce a customized, high-caliber speech designed for connection and impact.

How do I get my speech?

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How AI Can Help You Deliver the Ultimate Best Man Speech

Weddings are a time of joy, love, and unforgettable memories. If you’ve been honored with the role of the best man, you have the unique privilege of supporting the groom on one of the most significant days of his life. Alongside this honor comes the daunting task of delivering a speech that’s heartfelt, funny, and memorable. But fear not, modern technology offers a surprising assistant in the form of artificial intelligence (AI). Intrigued? Let’s explore how AI can help you craft the ultimate best man speech.

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Understanding the AI Advantage

AI has seeped into our daily lives in ways we never imagined, from smartphone assistants to customer service chatbots. Its reach now extends to the realm of speech writing. While AI cannot replicate the deep personal connections you share with the groom, it can significantly reduce the stress of writing a speech by assisting with structure, content, and delivery.

Crafting the Perfect Structure

The first step in crafting any speech is establishing a robust framework, and AI tools can help you build that framework in minutes. These tools use algorithms to suggest a speech structure based on successful patterns. They often come with templates that include traditional best man speech components like the opening remarks, anecdotes about the groom, comments about the couple, and toasts.

Sample AI Suggested Structure:

Introduction

Relationship with the groom

Humorous anecdotes

Sentimental stories

Words of advice or quotes

Compliments to the bride and the couple

Concluding thoughts

Generating Content Ideas

Perhaps you’re stuck on what stories to tell or how to word your speech. AI can help generate content ideas or even create drafts based on a series of questions it asks you about the groom, your relationship, and the couple. The resulting content can include jokes, one-liners, and touching sentiments that are tailored to your responses.

AI-Prompted Questions Might Include:

How did you meet the groom?

Can you share a memorable moment you both enjoyed?

What are some quirks or habits of the groom that are light-hearted and can be shared?

How would you describe the couple’s relationship?

Improving Language and Delivery

Even if you’re confident with the raw content of your speech, AI can assist with refining the language, improving grammar, and suggesting synonyms to make your speech more engaging. Moreover, certain AI software can help you rehearse by offering feedback on pacing, pronunciation, and modulation — crucial elements that can transform a good speech into a great one.

Personalization with a Human Touch

Although AI offers an efficient way to structure and polish your speech, remember that the most impactful moments will come from your own personal experiences and genuine emotions. AI can facilitate the process, but it’s up to you to personalize the delivered content. Adding your unique perspective and heartfelt emotions will resonate best with the audience and, most importantly, the newlyweds.

AI-Assisted Best Man Speech Tips

Writing a memorable best man speech with AI’s help involves more than just inserting anecdotes into a templated structure. Here are some tips to ensure that your speech strikes the right chords:

Start with Sentiment, End with a Bang

Begin your speech with a touch of sentiment, expressing your happiness for the couple and your relationship with the groom. Then, transition to humor and storytelling, keeping the audience engaged and entertained. Make sure to end on a high note with a powerful toast that leaves everyone raising their glasses.

Practice Makes Perfect

Use AI tools for practice and feedback, but don’t rely solely on them. Practice your speech in front of friends or family and adjust based on their reactions. Personal interaction is invaluable.

Keep it Brief

Attention spans are limited, especially at a joyous event like a wedding. A general rule is to keep the speech under five minutes. AI can help you trim the fat and focus on the highlights.

Be Sensitive

AI might suggest a joke or two, but it’s your job to gauge appropriateness. Understand the audience and avoid anything that could be offensive or embarrassing to the couple or guests.

Tie in a Quote or a Toast

To add depth, use a meaningful quote about love or marriage. AI can suggest quotes, but choose one that truly aligns with the couple’s relationship. End with a heartfelt toast that encapsulates your wishes for the couple.

The Future of Speech Writing with AI

As AI continues to evolve, the future of speech writing looks promising. With more sophisticated natural language processing, AI may be able to offer even deeper personalization and emotional intelligence, leading to speeches that are not only funny and touching but also a true reflection of our human experiences.

Embracing AI Support for Your Best Man Duties

Using AI to help write your best man speech isn’t about being disingenuous or robotic; it’s about enhancing your ability to convey your real feelings and stories in a memorable way. Embrace the support that AI offers, but remember that the true essence of a great best man speech lies in the personal touch you bring to it.

In the end, it’s the balance between AI efficiency and personal sentiment that will help you deliver a speech that won’t just be remembered — it will be cherished.

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Being asked to be the best man is an honor, but with great honor comes great responsibility – and one of the biggest responsibilities is delivering an unforgettable speech. A memorable best man speech can make a wedding reception truly special, but it can also be a daunting task for many people. Fear not, as we have some tips to help you write the perfect best man speech.

Understanding the Role of the Best Man

Being chosen as the best man is a great honor, but it also comes with a lot of responsibilities. The role of the best man is not just limited to being the groom’s right-hand man, but it involves several important duties that must be fulfilled to make the wedding day a memorable one for everyone.

As the best man, you are not only responsible for throwing the bachelor party, but you also have to make sure that it is a night to remember for the groom and his friends. From picking the perfect venue to arranging the activities, it’s your job to ensure that the groom has a blast on his last night as a single man.

Another important responsibility of the best man is to organize the groomsmen. You have to ensure that everyone is dressed impeccably, knows their cues and duties, and is ready to make the wedding day a success. You are the leader of the groomsmen and must make sure that everyone is on the same page.

Duties and Responsibilities

Planning a bachelor party can be a stressful task, but it’s also a great way to bond with the groom and his friends. You can plan a trip to a different city or even a weekend getaway to make it more exciting. But, as the best man, you have to make sure that the party doesn't get out of hand. You don't want the groom to wake up with a hangover on his wedding day!

When it comes to organizing the groomsmen, you should make sure that everyone is aware of their roles and responsibilities. You can create a schedule of events to keep everyone on track and ensure that everything runs smoothly on the big day. You can also arrange for transportation and make sure that everyone arrives at the wedding venue on time.

The Importance of the Speech

Delivering a memorable wedding speech is undoubtedly the biggest challenge of them all. Your speech is an opportunity to honor the groom, convey your affection for the bride, and share anecdotes that make everyone laugh or even get choked up. It’s important to prepare your speech well in advance to ensure that you don't miss out on anything important.

You can start by introducing yourself and sharing how you met the groom. You can then talk about the qualities that make him a great person and why he is such a good friend. You can also share some funny anecdotes that you have shared with him over the years.

It’s important to remember that your speech should not be too long or too short. You don't want to bore the guests, but at the same time, you don't want to rush through it. Practice your speech in front of a mirror or with a friend to ensure that you deliver it with confidence and ease.

Remember, the wedding day is all about celebrating the love and commitment between the bride and groom. As the best man, your job is to make sure that everything runs smoothly and that everyone has a great time. With a little bit of planning and preparation, you can make the wedding day a memorable one for everyone!

Knowing Your Audience

When preparing your best man speech, it’s important to consider your audience. You will be speaking to diverse group of people, including the bride and groom's families, close friends as well as guests. Here are a few aspects to consider when crafting your speech:

The Bride and Groom

While your speech is about the groom, don't forget to mention the bride. Speak about e their love story, bond and connection. It’s important to mention how much the groom has changed since they met their partner.

Friends and Family

You will be speaking in front of family members and friends from both families. Avoid inappropriate subjects and jokes that might be offensive to anyone. Always keep it lighthearted, warm and polite.

Cultural and Religious Considerations

Take into consideration the cultural and religious background of your listeners. If the gathering is diverse, keep in mind that everyone might not understand your inside jokes and anecdotes.

Crafting Your Speech

Now that you know your audience, let’s start crafting your speech.

Finding Inspiration

Start early and jot down your thoughts, stories, and ideas. Think about the good memories you have with the groom and his partner. A good speech is personal and honest, and sharing genuine anecdotes is one of the best ways to engage with the audience.

Balancing Humor and Sentiment

A perfect best man speech involves an excellent balance between humor and sentiment. While it’s important to make the guests laugh, be mindful on focusing on the positive aspects.

Incorporating Anecdotes and Stories

Personal stories and anecdotes are an essential element of a successful speech. The listeners want to hear about the groom and the bride's personal experiences. Share something special that the two have shared and how they complement each other's strengths and weaknesses.

Avoiding Common Pitfalls

Keep the speech within acceptable and tasteful limits. It's tempting to crack a joke but remember, you don't want to offend anyone. Stay away from sensitive subjects. Avoid discussing your personal experiences if they’re not appropriate for the audience.

Structuring Your Speech

The introduction.

Start your speech with a proper introduction so the audience knows who you are and how you are related to the groom. Start with something funny or a little anecdote about the groom to get the audience involved in your speech.

The body of your speech is where you’ll deliver the main content. Share stories that show the groom's character in good light, highlight the relationship of the newly wedded couple, keep it positive. It’s good to incorporate a few funny stories in between.

The Conclusion

Conclude your speech with the best wishes for the couple’s new life together. You can also make it a little emotional, but avoid causing anyone to cry uncontrollably. Propose a toast to conclude your speech with a bang.

Follow these tips, prepare early, and you’ll be delivering the perfect best man speech in no time!

ChatGPT Prompt for Writing a Best Man Speech

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Compose a speech that is fitting for the role of the best man at a wedding, with a focus on delivering a memorable and impactful message that will resonate with the bride, groom, and all attendees. The speech should be well-crafted and thoughtfully planned, incorporating personal anecdotes, humor, and heartfelt sentiments to showcase the unique bond between the best man and the groom. It should also be delivered with confidence and poise, capturing the attention of the audience and leaving a lasting impression on all who hear it.

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This guide will walk you through the steps of writing the perfect Best Man speech, from preparing to delivering it.

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Being chosen as the best man is a huge honour.  It speaks volumes about your bond with the groom and the trust he places in you. Now, amongst all the other responsibilities, comes the highlight – the best man speech.  It's a chance to share some laughs, express your heartfelt wishes for the couple, and make it a night to remember.

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Step 1: Laying the foundations

A memorable speech begins with solid groundwork. Ideally, follow these steps to set the stage for an unforgettable address, but don't despair if you're short on time!

Dive into the Couple's World:  Spend quality time with the bride and groom, if possible. This will provide valuable insights and help you personalise your speech even further.

Start the Clock (As Early as Possible):  Give yourself at least a few weeks to write, revise, and rehearse your speech. This provides time for ideas to percolate and ensures a polished delivery.

But Life Happens: Starting late? Don't panic! You can still craft a fantastic speech. Focus on the key elements and draw upon your most memorable experiences with the groom.

Brainstorming Power:  Stuck for memorable ideas? Set aside 10 minutes for a rapid-fire brainstorming session. Grab a notepad or use your phone, and jot down a few answers to the following questions, focusing on quality of ideas (rather than writing quality at this stage):

• How you met the groom and a favourite memory.
• The groom's best qualities and a time they shone through.
• A hilarious moment that captures the groom's personality.
• Why the couple are a perfect match.
• His partner's best qualities and positive influence on the groom
• A story showing the couple's love, strength or connection.

Choose Your Gems: Review your lists and highlight the most impactful anecdotes or observations. These will form the building blocks of your speech. Remember, a well-crafted 5-minute speech is ample, so always aim for quality over quantity in the idea department.

Outline Your Thoughts: Create a list of these key points to structure your speech, ensuring you don't forget anything important.

Step 2: Crafting an Epic Best Man Speech

Now, let's turn those ideas into a speech that perfectly showcases you, your bond with the groom, and celebrates his big day.  Here's how to ensure it hits all the right notes:

Build a Winning Structure

• Intro That Grabs 'Em: While some situations call for a traditional start, don't be afraid to ditch the formalities and grab their attention with a funny anecdote, quote, or raise a glass to the happy couple. (Example: "Raise your glasses for Jack and Sarah! Finally, an excuse to put on a suit that doesn't involve court.")
• Heartfelt Highlights: Share a few stories that reveal the groom's best qualities, hilarious moments, or the positive impact his partner has on him. Keep it short, sweet, and focused on him!
• Praise the Partner: Briefly acknowledge the bride (or partner). Talk about her best qualities, why she's perfect for the groom, and welcome her into the fold.
• The Grand Finale: Bring it home with a sincere toast wishing the couple all the best. (Example: "To Jack and Sarah – may your love be as strong as Jack's obsession with footy and as enduring as Sarah's patience for it.")

Make it Personal

• Spotlight on the Groom: This speech is his moment to shine! Use your anecdotes to highlight his best qualities, funniest quirks, and the amazing journey that led him to his partner.
• The Power of "We":  Share stories that showcase your bond with the groom.  Did you get into mischief together?  Has he always been there for you? These shared experiences demonstrate the depth of your friendship. Be sure to emphasise 'he' and 'we', not 'me'. ‍
• Inside Jokes? Tread Carefully:  A well-placed inside joke can be hilarious… IF most guests get it.  Otherwise, use them sparingly or explain enough to let everyone in on the fun.

Balance Humour with Respect

• Handle with Care:  Humour is a key element of any best man speech, but it should be handled with care. The best laughs come from a place of affection, not embarrassment. Know your audience and keep any teasing light and affectionate. And if in doubt, leave it out.
• Off-Limit Topics:  Avoid anything that could genuinely hurt feelings (exes, sensitive personal struggles). You're there to celebrate their love, not cause drama.
• Funny Doesn't Have to be Cheesy:  Humour comes in many forms. Setting a funny scene or using witty observations can be more memorable than recycled jokes from the internet.

Speak from the Heart

• Honesty is Heartwarming: Even a simple sentence expressing how much the groom means to you, or a moment when you knew his partner was "the one", carries surprising emotional power.
• Self-Deprecation FTW:  Poking fun at yourself shows confidence. Share a blunder you made with the groom or how he helped you out of a jam. It makes him the hero!

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• 5-7 Minutes Max: That's the sweet spot to be entertaining without losing the crowd.  Remember, their wedding is a joyful celebration, and you're just one part! Keep your speech tight and impactful so everyone stays engaged!

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Your words are ready, now it's time to nail the delivery! Remember, practice and a few simple techniques will make all the difference. Here's how to own the room and deliver a speech they'll remember:

Prep for Success

• Practice is King: The best way to build confidence for your big moment is to rehearse! Do it out loud, in front of a mirror, or for a supportive friend.  The more you practice, the more comfortable you'll become with your words and delivery.
• Content is Confidence: A strong, well-organised speech provides a solid foundation. Knowing you've got great material takes the pressure off and lets you focus on sharing it with the crowd.
• Manage the Nerves:  Feeling a bit anxious is totally normal!  Take a deep breath, relax your shoulders, and channel that energy into enthusiasm.  Remember why you're up there – to celebrate your mate and his partner!
• Your Memory Aid: Decide whether a few notes with keywords or memorising the first and last lines is best for you.  Avoid reading your whole speech word for word.
• Pace Yourself (With Drinks): It's easy to get caught up in the celebrations. While a little liquid courage can help, don't overdo it! You want to be sharp and present for your speech.

Own the Stage

• Speak Up, Speak Clearly: Project your voice so everyone in the room can hear you. Enunciate and take your time – don't let nerves make you rush!
• Get Moving (But Naturally):  Use gestures and move around a bit if it feels natural. It adds energy and keeps things from feeling too stiff.
• Make Eye Contact: Scan the room and connect with different guests. This creates a sense of genuine connection and keeps everyone engaged.
• Timing is Key: Time yourself during rehearsals.  This ensures you don't go too long and keeps the focus on the happy couple.
• Tech Troubleshooter: Have a backup plan! Know who to ask for help if the microphone cuts out .

The Grand Finale

• Seal it with a Toast: Raise a glass to the newlyweds, offer your heartfelt wishes, and invite everyone to join in the celebration.

Remember, confidence comes with practice! Rehearse in front of a mirror, record yourself, or try it out for a supportive friend.  The more you practice, the easier it'll be to let your personality shine on the big day!

Bonus: Epic Best Man Speech Template

To help you craft a great best man speech, here's a practical template to provide a strong foundation. Use it as a starting point, then weave in your personal anecdotes and heartfelt touches to make it uniquely yours. While there's no one-size-fits-all approach to best man speeches, hitting these key points will put you well on your way to delivering a speech that truly stands out.

Warm Introduction:

"Good evening, everyone! I’m [Your Name], and it’s an absolute privilege to be here as [Groom’s Name]'s best man. Looking around at all your smiling faces, I can feel the love in the room.  It's an honor to celebrate this amazing couple and the start of their next chapter."

The Origin Story: How You Met and a Memorable Moment

"My friendship with [Groom's Name] goes back to [briefly state how you met, such as school, work, sports team, or a shared event]. It's been a wild ride, but a favorite memory that really captures our bond is [share a funny, heartwarming, or defining moment from your shared history]."

Highlight the Groom's Character:

"[Groom's Name] is known for his [insert key qualities, such as 'resilience,' 'generosity,' or 'sense of humour'].  I’ve seen these qualities time and time again, but one moment they truly shone through was [describe a specific situation where the groom's best qualities were evident].

A Hilarious Highlight:

"Of course, no story about [Groom's Name] would be complete without a hilarious moment!  One that always stands out is [share a funny, lighthearted story that showcases his personality]."

Why They're a Perfect Match:

"When [Groom's Name] met [Partner's Name], it was clear they were a perfect match. They share [mention a common value, interest, or way of looking at the world]. Perhaps even more importantly, they bring out the best in each other."

Partner's Best Qualities and Positive Influence:

"[Partner's Name], you bring so many incredible qualities to this partnership. Your [mention specific qualities, such as 'patience,' 'intellectual curiosity,' or 'unwavering support'] has made [Groom's Name] a better man. Seeing how you [describe a specific positive influence they've had on the groom] has been truly inspiring."

Their Love and Strength:

"The connection between [Groom's Name] and [Partner's Name] is undeniable.  One moment that really highlights the strength of their love is [share a story demonstrating their love, support for each other, or how they overcome challenges together]."

A Note on Personalisation:

Remember, this is a template, not a script! Inject your unique voice, humour, and heartfelt sentiments throughout to make it truly yours.

A great best man speech is more than just words – it's a gift. With a bit of preparation, thoughtful writing, and genuine sincerity, you'll deliver a speech that fills the room with laughter, maybe a few happy tears, and, most importantly, love for the happy couple.  This is your chance to show your mate how much he means to you and celebrate the incredible journey he and his partner are starting. Embrace your unique perspective and let your heart guide your words.

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How To Write A Killer Best Man Speech (With Templates)

A funny, heartfelt speech from the best man is one of the most memorable parts of a wedding. Here’s how to give a great toast (without embarrassing yourself).

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A best man speech is the perfect way to send your brother or friend the best wishes in their marriage, but standing up in front of the crowd can be super nerve-wracking. If you’ve been invited to be the best man at a wedding but have no idea what to say in your speech, you’re not alone! 

Over 75% of the population cites public speaking as one of their biggest fears. Thankfully, it’s a people skill that anyone can develop. A great event toast can be a game-changer and make you feel like a celebrity amongst the wedding guests. 

Watch our video to learn the best (and worst) speech openers:

Here’s how to overcome your public speaking anxiety and give a knockout best man speech that will incite laughter, smiles, or even sentimental tears. 

Quick Answer: How to Write a Best Man Speech Fast (with Template!)

A killer best man toast has a formula:

• Start with a funny or complimentary introduction
• Lead into a short story
• Add a dash of vulnerability
• End with genuine congratulations to the bride and groom. 

You won’t want to wing the speech after you’ve had a few drinks when you feel strapped for time before the wedding. Instead, take just 30 minutes of planning and note-making to save you (and the bride & groom) the embarrassment of an excessively long or inappropriate ramble. 

If you want to write a best man speech fast, follow this brief template for a great toast. Your toast should be roughly 3 to 5 minutes long. You can use numbered index cards to jot down the highlights of each section. Then, rehearse a few times in the mirror in the days leading up to the event. 

The most straightforward speech outline includes seven main components: 

• A great one-liner : This could be a funny joke, a compliment, or an inspirational quote about brotherhood or marriage. The first 15 seconds of the toast should capture the audience’s attention and leave them excited for more. Modify this:

“I’d like to begin by congratulating the groom for his superb taste in choosing the best man [chuckle].” 

• Compliment the wedding : Build your respect with the guests by highlighting things you like about the wedding. For example, you can compliment the beauty of the venue, the delicious food, or the great choice of music. Modify this:

“All jokes aside, this is a beautiful wedding. The bride and groom look like a movie star couple together. And if you didn’t taste the cake, you are missing out!” 

• Express gratitude : Say “thank you” to those who made the wedding possible and show appreciation to the groom for choosing you as his best man. Modify this:

“I am so grateful to Mr. and Mrs. Zimerman for hosting us here today, and thank you to the bride and groom for inviting me to be part of their special day.” 

• Tell a story : Did you and the groom meet as kids on the baseball field? Were you there when he first met his bride? Did you share a funny experience in college that is appropriate to share? The “meat” of the speech will be a short story about your relationship with the groom. A great story sounds like this:

 “When I first met Jeff, he was in a period of transition in life, like we all go through. He had just started a new job at my office in San Francisco, and we met because of our mutual addiction to double shot espressos (iced with a little cream) at 6 AM every morning from the corner coffee shop Bob’s Cup O’ Joe. When we both arrived at the office at the same time, 3 days in a row with eyes like this [widen eyes big], I knew we would be friends for life. A million espressos, meetings, and after-work beers later, I am so proud to call Jeff my best friend. When he told me about meeting a beautiful blonde named Anne at Bob’s Cup O’ Joe a few years later, I knew something would become of it. She even drank the same double shot espressos, iced with a little cream!”  

• Admire the couple : Strengthen your bond with the newlyweds by expressing your support for their marriage. If you know a bit about the bride and groom’s relationship, list a few things you admire about their bond. You may emphasize how the bride has positively impacted the groom’s life or how they make a great team. 

“Jeff and Anne are a perfect pair, and it seriously warms my heart to see a couple so amazingly in love. They compliment each other in every way and radiate joy when they are together.” 

• Summarize your thoughts : Before you wrap up your speech, go back and highlight your key ideas. You can pre-write 2-3 crisp sentences summarizing your support of the couple’s marriage. Modify this:

“I wish I could say I predicted this day would come, but Jeff’s incredible character and charm won Anne over. I am so grateful to be friends with both of them and to join you all in this celebration.” 

• Toast to the future : At the end of your speech, raise your glass for a toast to the couple’s love. Modify this: 

“Please join me in raising our glasses to a lifetime of happiness and espressos for Jeff and Anne Allison!” 

Here is an awesome example of a short and sweet 4-minute toast that left the crowd cracking up:

It’s best to memorize your speech, but there is no shame in bringing a few index cards in your pocket to reference if you get nervous. Don’t forget to prepare and rehearse in advance. 

For a more in-depth speech, see our step-by-step guide below. 

What to Say in a Best Man Speech (Do’s and Don’ts)

A best man’s speech traditionally takes place at the wedding reception after the maid of honor gives her speech. The best man’s speech should be positive, respectful, and congratulatory. It can last 3 to 5 minutes and should focus on a central theme or story about the groom. 

Remember, a best man speech is not the time to “wing it.” If you do that, there may come the point when everything suddenly goes silent, and a crowd of 50-100+ people is staring at you, waiting for what you’re going to say about the groom. You probably don’t want to end up with a cringing audience while telling a story about the groom’s previous relationships:

Instead, remember these key best man speech tips for a successful toast: 

Here are a few examples of what you should say in a best man speech:

• How did you meet the groom?
• What is one of your favorite memories with him?
• How did the groom meet the bride? Were you there?
• What is special about the groom?
• What do you like most about him? 
• What are his positive traits? 
• Playful banter : You don’t want to be too corny and cheesy with your bro. Depending on your relationship with the groom and the culture of the wedding, you may want to throw in a little banter with your dude. For example, you might make a funny joke about how much the groom loves going out to eat:

You should also avoid some key topics in a best man speech. 

Do not mention:

• The groom’s past relationships
• Sexual jokes
• Drugs, alcohol, or past mistakes
• Insecurities of the groom
• Financial or personal information 
• Insults to the bride or the wedding guests 
• Overly embarrassing stories
• Teasing the bride
• Anything that could potentially harm your friendship

Keep things positive and lighthearted. While a little witty banter or playful teasing can be fun (depending on your relationship with the groom), you should avoid insulting him or highlighting any major insecurities. The “playful” part of the speech is an excellent fun icebreaker, but it shouldn’t hurt anyone’s feelings or make them feel publicly embarrassed in front of their wedding guests.

How to Write a Best Man Speech for Best Friend or Brother: Easy Step-by-Step Guide

If you’re ready to prepare something more in-depth than the quick ideas above, this step-by-step guide can help you write a thoughtful speech that the groom may remember forever. After all, being named the best man at your friend or brother’s wedding is a tremendous honor. But like any honor, it comes with some responsibilities. After you finish all your bachelor party and wedding duties, an epic best man speech can be like the fireworks at the show’s end. 

Here are 5 simple steps to make it count:

#1 Start with a theme

Before you start writing and rehearsing your speech, it helps to decide on a theme for your talk. This will give a nice flow to the speech. A theme ensures that you stay on track to communicate your congratulations and appreciation to the groom. 

What is the main message you want to get across? A few theme ideas include:

• Anecdotes : Best man toasts center around storytelling. This theme is the easiest way to stay on track because you are telling a simple story from beginning to end. 
• Humor : Whether you’re naturally funny or working on your jokes ,  your speech is the perfect opportunity to get the audience laughing. Best man speeches are known for getting a little saucy, but you must be careful about offending the crowd or making crude jokes that might insult the bride and groom. If you want to tease the groom with some witty banter, it helps to make fun of yourself or reference an appropriate inside joke.
• Inspirational : Have you and the groom achieved an important business goal or accomplishment together? Do you have a shared role model or favorite motivational book you both read in college? This speech theme can leave the audience feeling inspired.
• Morality : Use your speech to highlight the great person the groom is. Perhaps you give examples of his integrity, trustworthiness, or generosity. You can emphasize how lucky you are to know the groom and how glad you are that he found a woman to spend his life with. 
• Sentimentality : When humor and storytelling aren’t your fortes, it doesn’t hurt to get a little corny. Sentimental speeches require a level of emotional vulnerability, but they can leave a huge impact on the newlyweds and their attendees.

#2 Create an outline

You wouldn’t go on a road trip without a navigation system, so don’t go into your speech without a plan. The best toasts and speeches follow the same structure. Pull out a piece of paper and brainstorm some ideas using this format, then use the following steps to fill in the details:

• Hook/Opening statement : The opening statement should be a 1 to 3-line description about the groom. The first 7 seconds of the speech should hook the audience immediately. It warms them up to you and makes them want to pay attention to the amusing stories. You’ll find an abundance of opening-line ideas in the next section. 
• Background context : Now comes the why of your speech. This is where the context of your relationship with the groom comes in. You can throw in some funny jokes and a few details about your experience with him. Use this intro to build up the anticipation for the story to come. Write down a few ideas of stories you can tell. 
• Tell the story : Choose 1-3 short stories about the groom that is funny, slightly embarrassing, or interesting. Jot down a few of the sensory elements you want to reference, like the smelly locker room or the squeaking of tire wheels. Most stories follow a bell-curve pattern—they start with an intro, lead to rising action, peak with a capstone moment, then tie back to the beginning. Keep this in mind as you brainstorm and follow the story-planning steps below. 
• Take-home message : After you get a good laugh or “awww” out of the audience, you’ll want to bring the story back to the beginning. What do you want them to remember about your speech and friendship with the groom? 
• Thank the wedding party : Use a quick sentence to thank the wedding party and hosts. Express your genuine gratitude for being invited. 
• Closing toast and congratulations : After wrapping up the story and thanking the wedding party, you should invite the audience to toast the bride and groom with you. For an extra cheery finale, act as if you are speaking on their behalf and include lots of well-wishes for the newlyweds. 

Pro Tip : Before filling in your outline details, watch this video for an overview of how to give a memorable toast. Human behavior expert Vanessa Van Edwards explains the most common mistakes (don’t start with “I,” “me,” or “my”) and a few secrets to getting the audience to perk up in their seats. 

#3 Nail the opening line 

Once you have your outline, it’s time to dig into the details. People decide their first impression of you within 7 seconds, so it’s extra important to nail the opening line of your speech. Best men use this opportunity to crack a joke, compliment the wedding, or set a sentimental tone for the speech. 

Avoid making the first lines about you. No “me”, “I”, or “my”. Instead, start with a juicy or mysterious line about the groom, for example:

If you need a little inspiration, here are some hilarious and quirky best man speech opening lines: 

• “Caring, loyal, honest, good-looking, and an all-around-great guy… OK, enough about me, onto the groom…!” 
• “This is the perfect chance to tell you about [Groom] and how talented, special, smart, good-looking, and… sorry, man, I can’t read your handwriting here.” 
• “I’d like to give a toast to the bride and groom.” [pull a piece of toasted bread from your pocket and give it to them]
• “[Groom’s name] is the kind of person you call when you lock yourself out of the dorm bathroom without any clothes on.” 
• “The bride and groom asked me not to share embarrassing stories or crude jokes during my speech… so that’s it from me! Thanks for listening, everyone.”
• “I’d like to start by congratulating the groom for his excellent taste in choosing the best man.” 
• “[Groom] had a tough time choosing his best man. First, he called his most handsome friend, but he said no. Then, he called his smartest friend, and he said no. Then, he called his most successful friend, who also said no. Then he called me, and I said, ‘Bro, I can’t say no to you four times.'”
• “What can I say about [Groom]? I guess I’ll start at the very beginning. He was born on [groom’s birthday]. Our parents were hoping for a girl, but I’ve always said… close enough.”

Here is a genuinely funny opening line from a best brother wedding speech:

Pro Tip : Don’t forget to pause for laughter. If it doesn’t come, you can chuckle at yourself and cue the audience that they are supposed to laugh by saying, “This is where you are supposed to laugh,” or joking, “Sound guy, can you please cue the laugh track?” Then, keep going with your speech.

Don’t worry. You need not be a jokester to give a great opening line. If you want to go the nostalgic or tearjerker route, be sure it is highly personalized and thoughtful. Here are some sentimental opening line ideas:

• “There are friends, and there is family, but friends also become family. This is so true for [Groom] and me. We’ve been best friends since we were X years old, and I’ve always considered him my brother.” 
• “There’s an old Irish proverb that says a good friend is like a four-leaf clover—hard to find and lucky to have. I think that’s true. Good friends are hard to find, and I’m lucky to have called [Groom] my best friend for the last X years.” 
• “I’ve heard that the best relationships come from the foundation of a deep friendship. Experts say that laughter, mutual respect, and enjoying each other’s company are the ingredients for a long-lasting, joyful marriage. After knowing [Groom] and [Bride] for X years, there is no doubt in my mind that they will make a great pair.” 
• “In Good Will Hunting , Robin Williams said, ‘It doesn’t matter if the guy is perfect or the girl is perfect as long as they are perfect for each other.” Anyone who has seen [Groom] and [Bride] together can agree that this is true for them. I haven’t seen a perfect pair, and I’m happy to be part of this celebration of their love.” 

To learn more about the best speech openers, use this guide on How to Start a Speech: The Best (and Worst) Speech Openers . Some top tips include:

• Avoid starting with a lackluster nicety like “thanks for having me.” 
• Don’t mention your nervousness.
• Avoid mentioning technical difficulties like the microphone or saying, “Can you hear me?” 

Bonus Tip: Learn the Art of Stage Presence

Did you know that public speaking is actually a skill? Many people struggle with stage anxiety because they feel they ‘missed the memo’ on public speaking or they are lacking because they do not have a natural stage presence. Not true!

Stage presence and public speaking are skills you need to be taught—very few people have them naturally. 

Watch our video to learn 7 steps to overcome stage fright and beat performance anxiety:

Here are all the aspects of public speaking you can master.

• How to make a first impression with an audience
• How to have stage presence
• Powerful body language
• How to speak with a commanding voice
• What to do with your hands while speaking

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#4 Background context

Now that you’ve grabbed the audience’s attention, it’s time to give them a little background on why you are giving a speech in the first place. This is another sneak peek at some details you’ll cover in the speech. 

The whole point of this part is to tell them how you know the groom—but it isn’t about you. You’ll often hear wedding speeches that start with a drab, “I met the groom in college” or, “My name is ___, and I’m the best man.” You can do better than that! Try saying:

• “The groom was the first friend I made on the high school football team. I had no idea we would become roommates in a bachelor pad throughout college.” 
• “As little kids, the groom and I were known to be a dangerous duo in the neighborhood. He always carried the eggs and toilet paper, then instructed me where to throw them. But you can guess who always took the blame for his antics….” 
• “The groom and I have been friends and business partners for X years, and as you’ll hear shortly, he is the main reason I broke my arm during the last office basketball game. But first, I want to tell you a less embarrassing story….” 

Pro Tip : Focus on the groom, and don’t make it about you. One of the biggest mistakes people make during wedding speeches is talking too much about themselves. Your speech shouldn’t discuss where you’re from, what you think, or how you ended up at the party. The best man’s speech is a time to focus on the groom and his bride. 

#5 Tell the story  

After your punchy opening line and background info, it’s time to tell the perfect story about the groom. Depending on the length of your speech and the details of your story, some best man speeches cover 1 to 3 short stories. 

Reference back to the memories you wrote when brainstorming. Pick a story that includes the most of these captivating elements:

• A little bit of embarrassment : Whether it’s you, the groom, or a mutual friend, it helps to poke some fun at someone in the story. If you fear being offensive, the best person to joke about is yourself.  
• Audience member references : You can get major bonus points if you bring wedding guests into the storytelling moment. You might say, “Mom, you might want to close your ears on this one!” or, “Brian, we’re talking about you!” 
• Sensory details : What did the scenery look like? What were the prominent smells, sounds, and tastes at the moment? A great story should make the audience feel like they were with you. Don’t forget to mention the frigid cold lake you jumped into or the outrageously spicy food that left you both panting and crying for water. 
• A final punch line : Ideally, the best story ends with a shocking moment or funny line. It should leave the audience laughing, crying, surprised, or even gasping. For example, in an epic adventure story about you and the groom on a hunting trip, you may end with, “Just as the shark was about to bite the line, Joe reeled in the massive bluefin and yelled, ‘I think we’re gonna need a bigger boat!’”

Pro Tip : If you have to ask, “Is this appropriate?” it probably isn’t. Some stories are better for late-night beers than they are for weddings. Avoid telling stories related to sexual topics, drugs, alcohol, illegal activities, or anything you wouldn’t want grandma to hear. 

#6 Take-home message

When the story finishes, you’ve hopefully elicited some laughter or maybe some tears. All jokes aside, there is a reason you were the best man, and you are probably a significant person to the groom. This is a great time to emphasize the best qualities of the groom and why you’re so happy for his new love. 

Here is an excellent example of tying together the opening and closing lines with a heartfelt message about finding the perfect soul mate:

#7 End your speech with a heartfelt toast

We’ve all heard “let’s raise a glass to [Bride] and [Groom]” before. You can do better than that! The final toast is like the fireworks at the end of your best man speech. Instead of something mediocre, invite the audience to join you in a genuine, thoughtful congratulations. Examples include:

• “Please join me in raising our glasses to the beautiful bride and handsome groom. May your lives together be long, healthy, and happy. We love you so much and are excited for you. Cheers!” 
• “Lift your glasses to thank Mr. and Mrs. [Bride’s Parents] for hosting this beautiful wedding. Let us all toast to the perfect union of the bride and groom. We wish you a bright and beautiful future. Cheers!”
• “Here’s to the past, for all you’ve learned. Here’s to the present for this beautiful moment we all share. Here’s to the future for all you’ve got to look forward to. Cheers to the happy couple!” 

Pro Tip : Make your toast inclusive and communal, so the audience feels like they’re cheering for the couple with you. Use words like “we”, “lets”, and “us”. This congratulation invites them to join as if you are speaking on their behalf. 

#8 Use a best man speech template

A template makes things simple if you’re still feeling uneasy about writing your best man speech. You can take the structure of an example speech and incorporate your ideas and stories to make it your own. 

Best man speech example for a best friend :  

“Tonight, you’ll learn why the groom was destined to marry [Bride]. The year was 2002, and we were all in a bar with friends on New Year’s Eve in New York City. Snow was falling outside, and we were sipping champagne, waiting for the big ball to drop. Seemingly out of nowhere, a woman with a red dress entered the room, and everything seemed to stop. All the bachelors in our group were captivated, but only [Groom] had the guts to walk up to her. Rumor has it that his first opening line was ‘

Everyone talks about a woman’s glow when she’s falling in love, but I swear that [Groom] was smiling from ear to ear from the second they met. We could hardly get him to stop talking about her by the following week. We’d be watching football and drinking beers only to have [Bride’s] name brought up every 5 minutes. 

Fast forward 3 years, and we’ve all seen how much [Bride] has positively impacted his life. When he came to me to tell me he was proposing, my only response was, ‘ Finally, dude !’

There’s something extra special about these two. They go together like peanut butter and jelly. They love and respect each other so much. [Bride] was the one for [Groom] from the second they locked eyes in that hazy NYC bar. We are all so happy to be here for your big day. Let’s raise our glasses to the beautiful bride and groom! Cheers!” 

Another Best man speech example for a best friend :  

“The groom was the first friend I made on the high school basketball team. He wasn’t very good [pause for laughter]. I was the tallest player and obviously had the best free throw, but I was majorly lacking in the ladies department. Thankfully, [Groom] took me under his wing and showed me how to be a true gentleman. That includes opening doors for women and carrying their bags instead of just running in with my own. What would I have done without you, man?

Even though he was no good at basketball, [Groom] always had his head on his shoulders. He’s a respectful, intelligent, and relatively clean-cut guy. All joking aside, it’s no surprise that he ended up with a woman as intelligent and beautiful as [Bride]. You both deserve a lifetime of love, happiness, and success together. Please raise your glasses and join me in congratulating the bride and groom! We love you!” 

#9 Practice your body language

Public speaking isn’t only about what you say but how you carry yourself. Your body language can drastically affect your confidence, your delivery, and how the audience perceives you. Use these body language hacks to take your speech to the next level: 

• Signal “friend” : Smile and show your open palms to send the message that you are the audience’s friend. This makes people feel more comfortable with your presence and more likely to listen.
• Stand up straight : When you look confident, you also feel more confident. Check your posture if your voice is a little shaky before the speech. Roll back your shoulders and tuck your shoulder blades down towards your back. Slightly lift your chest and chin as you speak. 
• Make eye contact: Throughout the speech, you should change your eye contact with different audience members. As you mention specific compliments or thanks, make eye contact with the bride, groom, groomsmen, bridesmaids, and the bride’s father.
• Genuinely smile : Smiling may seem obvious, but it’s easy to forget when you feel so focused on a perfect delivery. At the same time, you don’t want to look like you’re fake smiling throughout the speech. Use these 9 Simple Tips to Smile Better (in any situation!)
• Use your hands : It’s easy to let your nerves get the best of you and feel like a “deer in the headlights.” Instead of tucking your hands in your pockets, widen your stance and take up space. Use your hands and gestures while you talk to show that you are comfortable and happy during the speech. 

Want more tips? Here are 17 Body Language Presentation Cues to Use in Your Next Speech . 

#10 Rehearse before the big day

Experts say you should rehearse a speech 10 times before performing it. Research also shows that people who mentally prepare themselves before a speech by imagining it going well are more likely to perform fluently and easily. So before you get in front of an audience, be sure you’ve gone over your speech at least 10 times, either in your head or out loud. Better yet, practice in the mirror, on camera, or in front of a trusted friend. 

It also helps to review the gist of the speech with the groom (without giving away any secret details) to make sure it’s alright with him. A few weeks before the wedding, you may pull him aside and ask, “Hey man, is it OK if I tell the story about ____ in my best man speech? I think it’ll get some good laughs.” 

Although this example is long, this best man very clearly rehearsed his speech for a near-perfect performance without any notes:

Key Takeaways: Express Gratitude and Sentimentality in 3-5 Minutes

Ultimately, a best man speech is an opportunity to make your best bro look good in front of all his friends and family. Your speech should demonstrate how much you value your brotherhood or friendship. At the same time, you can enjoy 5 minutes of wedding fame without making things all about you. A great toast can make you a memorable celebrity at the wedding and have people laughing at your

Before jumping up at the reception and speaking off the cuff, remember to:

• Outline and plan your speech ahead of time. Use notecards if needed.
• Focus on the groom and his bride. Don’t go on and on about yourself. 
• Nail the opening line with a funny joke, quote, or teaser that leads into a great story. 
• Avoid inappropriate or cringey topics that could embarrass the groom.
• Express gratitude to the groom and wedding hosts. 

Giving a toast or speech is an essential social skill that can make you one of the most likable people in a room. If you want to learn more about the art of giving showstopping toasts, read this guide on How to Give an Awesome Toast: Advanced Strategies for Speeches . 

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How to Deliver a Great Best Man Speech, with Examples

November 6, 2020 - Dom Barnard

The best man speech is a huge part of the wedding so make sure yours is memorable. There are many areas to think about while preparing your speech; who is in the audience, how big is the audience, how long should the speech be, should I be telling jokes and so on.

Below we’ve listed essential best man speech tips on dealing with these questions and guidelines you can use to write your own speech.

Essential best man speaking tips

Tip #1: do your homework and plenty of practice.

Being prepared is the key to any successful speech. Write down bullet points of you key message, jokes, quotes etc. Spend time revising the content of your speech using different  tips from our blog , adding in  literary techniques , noting tactical pauses and best ways to end a speech.

Once the speech is written, spend hours practising it, the more you practise the less nervous you will be and the more natural you will sound. Don’t learn your speech off by heart, learn some key points and improvise around them. This will make you sound less wooden and monotonic.

For additional information, read this article on  best man tips  for before and after the speech.

Tip #2: Open by expressing gratitude

Thank the ones that made the day possible, the happy couple’s parents (single them out by name) and offer a toast to them for raising two fine people. Don’t forget to thank the audience as well. It’s a good idea to say something about how beautiful the bride looks and what a remarkable woman she is – this is guaranteed to go down well with everyone.

Tip #3: Introduce yourself to everyone

Many people at the wedding won’t know who you are. Briefly say who you are and why you’re such good friends with the groom.

Tip #4: Speak confidently and clearly

You know the groom better than most, so take the chance to introduce the real him to everyone. Talk slowly and clearly, taking time to pause and take deep breaths. Have a glass of water you can sip on during the speech, to help  calm the nerves  and break up the speech.

Tip #5: Get a joke in early

Getting a joke in early will help relax the mood. Spend time preparing the right joke – funny but not offensive, something that will appeal across all age groups, and make sure you learn it by heart.

Self-deprecation can go a long way, so it might be something told at your own expense. The audience will expect the speech to be somewhat funny so starting strongly will help engaging the audience.

Tip #6: Tell a story

Every great man speech includes a story, which could be how you met the bridegroom or a funny incident which you both went through. You can also tell a story about when you realised your friend had found his other half, or about when your friend would complain about being single for so long. Tread carefully when telling these and don’t cross the line with them!

Tip #7: Stay away from controversial topics

Anything embarrassing or offensive should be avoided by all means. Although this is common sense, once you get up there with a mic in front of you and a crowd waiting to see what you have to say, the situation might be so tense that cracking a crude joke or sharing an embarrassing story may seem perfect to lighten the mood. You’ll be left with a frozen audience that doesn’t want to laugh at the expense of the bridegroom.

Tip #8: Best to avoid past relationships

Try to avoid talking about the groom’s past relationships or reveal what you thought of the bride when you first laid eyes on her. Winking at the bride with comments such as “looking forward to the honeymoon” is absolutely out of the question when writing your best man speech!

Tip #9: Keep it short

Ideally, a best man’s speech should be no more than 1,000 words. The guests have already listened to the bride’s father and maid of honour speeches and are minutes away from eating the cake, so shoot for five minutes tops.

Tip #10: Summarise your friend’s good character

After the bulk of your speech, make sure you list the essential qualities of the groom which you have discovered over the years. You want the audience to think you’re a nice guy and convince the bride she picked the right man to marry!

Tip #11: End with a quote

Wrap everything you have said up nicely by  ending with a quote , such as: “Giving a best man speech is a choice. And, these two people have clearly chosen!”

Tip #12: Propose a toast

It’s time to raise your glass and toast for a lifetime of happiness and love for the couple… or something to this effect.

Use these best man speech tips to deliver a powerful speech people will remember for a very long time.

Best Man Speech – things to avoid

• Inside jokes  – you and a handful of people might find them funny, no one else will
• Getting drunk  – even though it may be tempting to calm the nerves beforehand
• Panic and get too nervous  – the key to avoiding this is to practice the speech until you really know it
• Waffling  – keep to 5 minutes of good quality content
• Reading straight from an A4 sheet  – take bullet points written on cue cards instead
• Speaking too quietly or loudly  – record your voice and play it back to yourself to hear what you sound like
• Discussing complex topics  – the audience will be left clueless if you talk about his latest PhD work

How to write a Best Man Speech – detailed guide

The opening.

Like any  form of public speaking , you need to have your audience on side right from the beginning. Be confident. After all, you know the groom better than most in the room and your best man speech is the perfect chance to introduce him to everybody else!

• Introduce yourself and say why you are best friends with the groom.
• Outline your speech (briefly).
• Feel free to improvise rather than sticking to the script you have prepared at home. Maybe something struck you as moving or funny during the ceremony. Mention it!
• Praise the bride early on (personality, looks, etc.) to buy good will right from the start and set everyone she knows at ease.
• Consider self-deprecation as it is something that will appeal across all age groups and it a great way to get a joke in early.

The main section of the speech

The important thing to remember is that the speech is not about you but the groom. Therefore, it’s okay if your best man speech paints a picture of your relationship with the groom but you need to concentrate on what a great guy he is, so everything you say has to revolve around that.

Be pleasant and nice and give your best man speech a flow. Every section and paragraph should run smoothly, jokes should be brief, and each story (you could also include other friends’ favourite memories, too) should reveal some more of the groom’s character and life.

The conclusion to the speech

So, by now you will have used all the funny stories and are ready to wow your audience with something emotional that will make their eyes water. You can say something about love and philosophise a little. It is also a good time to emphasise the love story of the bridegroom.

End your best man speech by saying how one completes the other and how happy you know one will make the other as they walk the paths of married life together. Your end to the best man speech should be as noteworthy as your opening comments so don’t fade away.

Best Man Speech examples

Here are some of our favourite best man speech examples:

• Greatest and funniest best man speech at a wedding
• Best brother wedding speech kills crowd
• Best man speech by Daniel Buccheri
• Best man speech – receives standing ovation

Final points to remember

There is no need to try too hard to be formal or present yourself as someone you are not. It’s important to just be yourself. This includes not necessarily following your prepared speech exactly. After all, these best man speech tips were written to provide you with a guide.

Your natural mannerisms and voice is what will make the difference so make it sincere, personal and if you talk from the heart, your best man speech will surely be golden!

For additional examples and best man speech tips, check out this website –  Best Man Example Wedding Speeches.

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Should I Use an AI to Write My Wedding Toast?

“I'm the best man in my friend's wedding this summer, and I'm dreading the speech. I have absolutely no idea what to say. Should I get an AI to help me? Or would that make me the worst man?” 

—Lost for Words

You're certainly not alone in realizing that some onerous creative or emotive task can be completed relatively painlessly with AI. The same thought has undoubtedly occurred to the tongue-tied Tinder user who discovers that he can enlist a digital Cyrano to pen his opening lines to a prospective date; or to the exhausted mother who recognizes that she has at her fingertips a tireless Scheherazade that can produce an infinite scroll of bedtime stories for her children; or to the overworked son who realizes that he can generate, in seconds, a personalized poem for his father's retirement party.

Creatively expressing our feelings to others is time-consuming, uncompensated, and emotionally taxing—that is, at any rate, the message implicit in some of the marketing of large language models. When Microsoft, for instance, introduced its AI Copilot products in March, it imagined a mother using the software to generate a speech for her daughter's high school graduation.

There are multiple ways you might use an LLM to produce a moving toast, ranging from the least intrusive (asking ChatGPT for writing tips or a quick proofread) to the more hands-on (generating a draft of the speech, which you can then customize). New sites like ToastWiz have built tools on top of GPT-4 that allow you to plug in “your stories and feelings” and generate three unique outputs for $30. Meanwhile, wedding-planning apps like Joy have incorporated AI that promises to help users with their “toughest wedding-related wordage.” The feature can produce toasts, or even vows , in the style of Shakespeare or Rumi, and aims to help users “bring their emotions on to paper in fun and creative ways.”

These aren't the first commercial products that have promised to offshore the difficult work of human expression—or what is increasingly called “emotional labor.” Long before the recent AI boom, people turned to human ghostwriters to pen wedding speeches. (“Toast whisperers,” as The New York Times noted in 2015, were an under-the-table service that many clients were too embarrassed to admit paying for.) And I imagine that you, like many people, have for years sent greeting cards that leverage the words of a professional writer to articulate what are allegedly your own thoughts and emotions. This practice, of course, was not without controversy and critics. Hallmark's very first slogan, introduced in 1944, was “When you care enough to send the very best,” a linguistic sleight of hand that inverted the most common critique of commercial greeting cards—that relying on the words of professionals was, in fact, evidence that you did not care enough to speak from your heart.

Such products have long approached what sociologist Arlie Russell Hochschild calls the “commodity frontier”—the threshold of activities we deem “too personal to pay for.” It's a perimeter that exists even when the products we enlist are (for the moment) free, and the arrival of new technologies calls for its constant renegotiation. In the case of AI, there have already been some breaches of this still-hazy border. When Vanderbilt University enlisted ChatGPT to generate an email offering condolences to the victims of the mass shooting at Michigan State, the school was criticized for using automated tools for a gesture that demanded, as one student put it, “genuine, human empathy, not a robot.”

Writing a wedding speech would seem to require similar emotional engagement. But perhaps you have reasoned that intent and selection—“It's the thought!”—are what matters in these situations. You are, after all, the one providing the model with the essential, albeit rough, emotive ingredients to produce the finished product. In conversations about AI-generated text, the prompt is often spoken of as the logos , the spiritual breath of human authenticity that animates the synthetic output (dismissed as so much mechanical “wordage”) with life and meaning. Just as the computer was, for Steve Jobs, a “bicycle for the mind,” so language-generation tools might be regarded as the vehicle that transports the spirit of our emotions from their point of origin to a desired destination.

But I'm not sure it's so easy to separate intent from expression, or emotions from behavior. Some psychological experiments have demonstrated that it's our words and actions that allow us to experience emotions, not the other way around—like the famous example of how forcing oneself to smile can induce a feeling of happiness. It's possible that expression, including linguistic expression, is not a mere afterthought in our emotional lives, but the whole point. If that's true, then the decision to outsource your speechwriting might contribute to a kind of emotional atrophy, a gradual loss of the ability to truly inhabit your internal states—or modulate them. A podcaster recently boasted that a friend of his who struggles with anger management uses AI “tone filters” when communicating with people who provoke his temper, feeding rageful rants into ChatGPT and asking the model to rewrite them “in a nicer way.”

If I can offer some more prescriptive parting advice, Lost, I'd urge you to consider that the logic of the commodity frontier can work in reverse. It's not that there are certain realms of human experience that are intrinsically too sacred to automate, which seems to be what you're getting at when you ask whether using AI for your speech would make you the “worst man.” On the contrary, it may be that human intimacy blooms in precisely those pockets of life that have not yet been widely exploited by commercial or mechanical forces. Perhaps our very notion of meaningful human connection depends on our refusal to relinquish such emotional work.

In the end, it's the effort we put into a task that determines its subjective significance. If you decide to hand over the speechwriting work to a machine, then you are essentially confirming that it is meaningless boilerplate. If, on the other hand, you decide to write the toast yourself, you will undoubtedly come to see this work—and the end product—as important, if only because your actions have reinforced your belief that it is worthy of your time and attention. Maybe the speech won't achieve a toast-masterish polish or a Hallmark card's concision, but your words may lead you to your own emotions, which, for the time being, we aren't so eager to automate.

Faithfully,  

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